it’s never too late to evolve

If you met me a few years ago, you would have met someone that was a planner. I never liked it when plans changed last minute, that would stress me out! I always planned out a time for activities and usually didn’t go out of my comfort zone.

Now there is nothing wrong in being a planner, I am only saying this because since last year, I have been more spontaneous. I do still like to have a routine, but I came to a realization that sometimes not having a plan is better than trying to have everything be a certain way in my life.

I remember one of the most spontaneous things I have done happened close to last year in November. It was my quick decision to see Jung Kook during the Today Show in New York City, the day after I landed from India.

It was one of the happiest moments of my life! Even though I only saw him for a few seconds! I wouldn’t change that for the world, and it happened only because I made this decision spontaneously. Should I write a post about that whole experience and how it happened? Let me know!

Today I wanted to share a bit of how I have worked on being comfortable by being uncomfortable. Weird sentence, right? What I am trying to say is, I want to share how I slowly started to get more out of my comfort zone. By doing this, I realized what I’m capable of and how everything is almost always in my head.

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The less I care, the better

Have you ever used to care about what others think of you? I’ll say that I have, and maybe in a few ways I still do. But a while ago, I actually used to care very much about how others view me.

It would be for the smallest of things. For example, I actually used to care about how many likes my posts would get on Instagram, but ever since I got in my 20’s, I stopped caring.

I stopped caring about a lot of things.

I used to care about what people used to think of me when I talked to them. In a way you can say I was a people pleaser. I’m happy to say, that I have stopped being like this for a long time now. I still care about those around me and want the best for them but, I put myself first now.

And that can be hard, but it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. I one day thought, who is going to be there for me if I’m not there for myself? When I stopped trying to control the things I can’t, as in understanding that not everyone will like being around me, I began to feel more at ease and happier with myself.

The people that truly like being around you and care about you will show you. Eventually those that are meant to be in your life will be.

You never know what you love!

Did you know I was a bit hesitant to start this blog? It was because this blog was out of my comfort zone.

While I do consider myself an open person, I also like to be reserved and not always share everything I do.

But with a blog that has the tagline of: “sharing is caring” I was, and still am putting myself out there! I came to the realization that once I slowly started to share more about myself through this blog, it didn’t feel as daunting as I thought.

Writing blog posts doesn’t seem like extra work for me, I think it’s fun. I wouldn’t have realized I liked to blog if I never tried it.

I also have gotten back into dance last year after a very long time! Yes, I used to dance as a hobby, and it was also my elective in high school. I used to do bhangra outside of school, and during school I took on different dance styles.

However, thinking about it now, I could have focused on it more, but I was always doing other things. Since last year, I decided to learn BTS dances. So far, I learned quite a few but can’t say that I am great at it.

This is also something that is “uncomfortable” for me in the sense that it’s something new that I am learning. But, going back into dancing with a style so new to me created a feeling of joy. It’s just something that I do for fun in my pass time, but I love it!

You never know what you might end up loving, so maybe you can try that hobby or go for that idea that you always wanted to start.

How can I get out of my comfort zone?

Change is scary, but sometimes change is good.

I consider myself an adaptable person and I like a change in routine and scenery. But I also find myself not looking forward to a certain event when change is expected, because that takes me out of my comfort zone.

However, it’s in these moments that you evolve and learn so much about yourself. There’s been many times in my life where there was a change, and I eventually got used to it.

Whether that was moving to live on my own when I was in college, starting a new job, a career change, and even just recently when I went to New York City for the first time by myself to attend a class.

These changes may not seem monumental to others, but during that moment, it was for me. If you want to also create a change, then go for it! It doesn’t have to be something huge, but if it makes you a bit uncomfortable, if it scares you, then that means you are getting out of your comfort zone.

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Let’s not look back!

Would Amelia Earhart not make the decision to fly across the Atlantic Ocean if she was in her comfort zone? Okay, I know that example is far-fetched, but small steps lead to great things!

Just as I mentioned, you never know what you are capable of and what you will really enjoy if you don’t take a chance.

So, let’s not look back at these things:

• What if
• I don’t know if I can do it
• Hesitations

^ don’t let this stop you! ^

I believe that little changes and steps means you are getting out of your comfort zone.

Whether that is getting up earlier than usual to start exercising, starting an activity you never did before, or taking a leap of faith and moving to a new city/town.

You never know how much you will understand about yourself if you don’t take chances. I have realized this and now don’t hold myself back for anything. I hope you can do the same too.